Dating someone with a disabled child

Low Self-Esteem A teen who doesn’t feel good about himself may engage in risky behaviors.He may also make inappropriate sexual comments because it makes him feel like he’s “cool.” He may put up with poor treatment because he doesn’t believe he deserves to be treated well.

I’m hopeful that I can encourage you to follow your heart and life path. I felt frustrated when guys looked at me and saw my wheelchair instead of my figure.

I also was annoyed at my cerebral palsy that when I felt attracted to someone, my spasms would react to my emotions. But all of this came from my perspective, not theirs.

Here are hurdles your child may face: Impulsive Behavior Your teen tends to act before thinking things through.

He may be more likely than his peers to make poor choices about sex, drugs and alcohol use.

Culturally insensitive terms such as “handicapped,” “retarded” and “slow” used to refer to people with disabilities, or “compliments” such as “but you look so good,” directed at people whose disabilities aren’t obvious.

“These terms are unacceptable because they are linked to a history that the general public isn’t aware of,” says Nancy Starnes, vice president and chief of staff for the National Organization on Disability (NOD).

Disability or not, finding a date, asking for a date, and actually going out on a date is stressful.

What do you do when you have a disability and want to date?

While this can be difficult for some people with disabilities, no one wants to have his or her work discounted.“Comparing the appearance or ability of a person with a disability to a person without a disability has the same underlying messages as saying to a women, ‘Your report was well done, for a girl,'” Susan Henderson, executive director of the Disability Rights Education and Defense Fund (DREDF), tells Diversity Inc.

It’s wrong to assume that because someone is at work, he or she is feeling better, or not affected by his or her disability that day.

“What they’re trying to say, in their own way, is that I think of you as capable and able or even powerful,” says Deb Dagit, chief diversity officer for Merck & Co. 16 on Questioning how someone uses the restroom is a rude question–period.

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